I first realised that I had a gift when I was an eight-year-old child and my grandad appeared at the side of my bed at 5 am and said: ‘I’ve gone, go and tell your mother.’ It was so real, and I didn’t really understand, but I told my mum and she just put me back to bed. It transpired that my grandad had died at 4.55 am,
and within five minutes had come through to me.
As a medium, I am responsible for passing on messages to people in the audience from those loved ones now in spirit. I aim to prove that even though their body has gone, their spirit lives on.
It’s an old joke that people say I should have seen something coming, or known it already. I hear that ALL the time! It does wear a bit thin after several years, but I just laugh it off.
The most memorable experience I’ve had as a medium was when I once passed a message on to Terry Stokes from his mother Doris Stokes, the most famous medium ever and a legend in the medium world.
We have sceptics in the audience every night, I’m sure. Some people just come along as they are curious. Some are dragged along by their partners. And some just come to cause grief. But if someone was a total sceptic and had hard views about it, they shouldn’t waste their time coming.
What I’d say to anyone who thinks they are hearing voices is that we do get this every now and again and it rather depends if they are just hearing loved ones in spirit, like a mother saying hello or something, or if they hear messages like ‘It’s Paul here. Please tell Mary “Happy Birthday” for Tuesday’.
I used to hear voices all the time, and it drove me mad, until I really got to grips with shutting it off when I wasn’t working. I often tell people to go to a spiritualist church.
What I’ve learnt about people through my work is that you really can’t please all the people, all the time. That’s a people perception, not about the mediumship.
When I was younger I wanted to be a solicitor initially, then I wanted to be a dog handler/trainer in the police.
The person who has had the biggest influence on my life is my mum, bless her heart. She is all things to all people, and even though she now has dementia, she still has her sense of humour and makes me laugh.
The one possession I would save in a fire is definitely my work diary. It’s priceless, with all the stuff that’s in there.
If I could meet one famous person or person from history, it would be the comedienne Marti Caine. She was an inspiration many years ago when she was fighting cancer.
The song I want played at my funeral would be Somewhere from West Side Story, but sung by Barbra Streisand.
I suppose it sounds a bit cheesy, but the best advice I would give is that, really, it’s not the destination that’s important, it’s the journey you make along the way.
The last time I cried was when I saw those adverts for Save the Children on TV – and I know it’s what they want – but they are so sad, it makes you fill up.
My favourite time of the day is early morning – it’s so peaceful. I can go to the gym or pool when it’s really quiet, and I find I have time to think.
The thing that most makes me laugh is older people. They really have a dry sense of humour and they just make me laugh – there’s no filter.
I don’t really have regrets. It’s like every mistake is just another lesson in life, and you only learn how to live through adjusting how you do and say things. You never stop learning and you have to feel blessed with what you have, not what you could have had.
The most expensive thing I’ve bought was a pair of boots for £115, which is the most I’ve ever spent on myself. I do love a bargain, and I’m going to be trawling every charity shop in St Helier while I’m here.
The thing that makes me happiest is when I am around my family and friends. Working away such a lot means it doesn’t happen all that often, so I relish it when I’m back home for a few days.
